Monday, June 14, 2010

Emotional Machines

Human Nature - one of my favorite topics to write about. Today again I am going to write on this topic only.I think basic nature of every human is common .I was asked, many times to believe somethings without knowing much about those things. sometimes by my teachers, sometimes my parents or my friends became my teachers. there are some beliefs to which all my teachers never tried to think of going against. Whatever those teachings were, have made a place in my mind. I guess which can never be unplaced totally for my whole life.I guess this is not only my case, but almost every human is suffering from it. I will try to explain it with example. I believe almost every person in this world must have listened at least one scary story. and every one must have heard about at least one ghost. To whatever extent one has strongly believed that there is nothing like ghost in this world, at least some circumstances exist which would force one to get afraid. i.e. one is walking in the dark mid night, without any light source, no humans exists nearby in the radius of 5 KM and heard a loud scream. you can image the next part of story. this fear can never be removed totally.
Now lets come to social world with a story of a man, who is very hard working person. and has got good marks in school and college. his image is, like no known person can even think that he will shirk work. he is very emotional about his work. He is very cool and calm, but when the question comes of any competition, his internal beast comes out and he becomes like ready to kill any one as if he is fighting in Mahabharta. why does he forget everything at that time. why does he never thinks of shirking work. Has he become a machine?
In another example , one of my friends , when I meet him first time, he was very frank, like he bothers about nothing ,he doesn't care what other says, he speaks what he has to speak. his behavior was like he is more than a friend. But after some 2-3 months his behavior was like what is expected from a friend. his two type of behavior made me confused. I don't know if his behavior changed with time or my way of thinking changed. but I am sure something is changed. why is this something changed? Are we forced to be changed by circumstances? are we controlled by other things? are we not emotional actually? are we made to be emotional? one other friend of mine was not very much frank, when we met first time, he took a lot of time to share his thinking and feelings with me, what is expected from a good friend. Did my second friend afraid of something which forced him to be very strange to me initially? Or did my first friend was make to show his very frankness and very nice behavior?why ones behavior is different with different people under different circumstances. Why one behavior changes when someone scolds one. why one feels happy when made to feel happy. Teacher scolded one student because he was unable to solve problems, actually he didn't use to think in a way teacher wanted. when first time student got scolded, he felt very bad. his intensity of thinking dropped. his behavior was also changed. but after few more scolds, he got adapted to feels that this is normal for him. Now he didn't feel bad. when he was scolded first time, he became very emotional . but with time and more scolds his emotions started reducing its intensity, and finally he became emotionless for his teacher's behavior. Its not like that his behavior changed only for his teacher, but had little effect on overall behavior. this doesn't happen only with students only, but with other older people also. When manager scolds his team member for not doing work in a way manager wants. Team member also starts behaving like school kid. emotional graphs takes a lot of curves. If we take this example in opposite way, means manager doesn't scold but appreciates the work. this increases the team members confidence. if this frequency of appreciation is more than normal. and after so many appreciations some days manager slops down his frequency of appreciations. team member starts thinking in way like he is getting insulted or scolded. he becomes little emotional more than normal. but after few more normals behaviors of managers, team member comes to normal emotional level. Now he doesn't feel insulted or scolded. Why does this emotional curve change it direction with situations? I think there is something that need to be changed, or you can say there is something pending to learn. I feel no one can make to learn this something.One can teach, one can tell , one can force to remember, one can make to think,but no one can make to learn. Then how will we learn this? Have we become emotional machines?

8 comments:

Nishit said...

Just as we wait impatiently for Aaamir Khan production, it more than a feeling to see ur post. Welcome Bagga DON.....keep spreading the GYAN....

Nishit said...

I will post my views on ur post after few dayzzz as i need some time to analyse wht u try to focus upon :P

Maddy said...

u knw wat..it's human nature...everyone is unique in this world...we can't decide a person's character..why he is like this before, wat happened again he turned in some othr way nd all.....and the intensity of emotions vary from a person to person...for eg: if some person met with an accident...some may worry, some may try to take him to hospital, some may leave it..some may feel bad...but i can say one thng...if thr r no emotions, we are not humans, we like non-living things!!

vicious said...

i guess human beings dont react or behave in a particular manner ... our behaviour is a direct result of the circumstance we are in ..
so nothing can be predicted i feel unless that particular person is put in a certain situation !

Mr controversial said...

well i do not know much about the human nature but onething i know is EGO state which different people have differnetly
this i learn during my training program .we take situtaion according to our state which may be parent,child or %%^%%*^ (third one i forgot :)
and offcource condition around us changed ourself a lot.this is very true for me atleast :)

Deepak Bagga said...

to nishit:
I will be waiting for your comments.

to madhuri and vicious:
whatever you said is absolutely right if we are are discussing about the some persons human nature, as I have given examples of two of my friends. one was vary frank when we met first time. but other one was very strange. these are their human natures. but I guess you missed the common thing in them, behaving differently at different situations. why this different behavior of ours, hurts us. that should be stopped. I agree every one is unique in this world, but like every one has two arms, two ears, two legs, one nose. similarly there is some common human nature. if something hurts someone, that should be stopped, if some scolds hurts someone, that should be reduced. someone gets scolded easily. but some other one does not get affected much. what is right? i guess the one who is not affected much. because he is not hurt easily. I guess everyone doesn't want to hurt. that is right also. if something hurts us, we should try to learn how to not get hurt. Am I right?

Deepak Bagga said...

to sheel bhadra:

whatever you said is right. but there is something which is common for everyone, I am talking about that thing. see the above comment you will understand what I am trying to say.

Mr controversial said...

i remeber the third one .it was ADULT
hey bhagwan aaj kal me bahut bhulne laga hu ....
in college my EGO state was child but now ADULT is dominating more
i have been examined
:)