Human Nature - one of my favorite topics to write about. Today again I am going to write on this topic only.I think basic nature of every human is common .I was asked, many times to believe somethings without knowing much about those things. sometimes by my teachers, sometimes my parents or my friends became my teachers. there are some beliefs to which all my teachers never tried to think of going against. Whatever those teachings were, have made a place in my mind. I guess which can never be unplaced totally for my whole life.I guess this is not only my case, but almost every human is suffering from it. I will try to explain it with example. I believe almost every person in this world must have listened at least one scary story. and every one must have heard about at least one ghost. To whatever extent one has strongly believed that there is nothing like ghost in this world, at least some circumstances exist which would force one to get afraid. i.e. one is walking in the dark mid night, without any light source, no humans exists nearby in the radius of 5 KM and heard a loud scream. you can image the next part of story. this fear can never be removed totally.
Now lets come to social world with a story of a man, who is very hard working person. and has got good marks in school and college. his image is, like no known person can even think that he will shirk work. he is very emotional about his work. He is very cool and calm, but when the question comes of any competition, his internal beast comes out and he becomes like ready to kill any one as if he is fighting in Mahabharta. why does he forget everything at that time. why does he never thinks of shirking work. Has he become a machine?
In another example , one of my friends , when I meet him first time, he was very frank, like he bothers about nothing ,he doesn't care what other says, he speaks what he has to speak. his behavior was like he is more than a friend. But after some 2-3 months his behavior was like what is expected from a friend. his two type of behavior made me confused. I don't know if his behavior changed with time or my way of thinking changed. but I am sure something is changed. why is this something changed? Are we forced to be changed by circumstances? are we controlled by other things? are we not emotional actually? are we made to be emotional? one other friend of mine was not very much frank, when we met first time, he took a lot of time to share his thinking and feelings with me, what is expected from a good friend. Did my second friend afraid of something which forced him to be very strange to me initially? Or did my first friend was make to show his very frankness and very nice behavior?why ones behavior is different with different people under different circumstances. Why one behavior changes when someone scolds one. why one feels happy when made to feel happy. Teacher scolded one student because he was unable to solve problems, actually he didn't use to think in a way teacher wanted. when first time student got scolded, he felt very bad. his intensity of thinking dropped. his behavior was also changed. but after few more scolds, he got adapted to feels that this is normal for him. Now he didn't feel bad. when he was scolded first time, he became very emotional . but with time and more scolds his emotions started reducing its intensity, and finally he became emotionless for his teacher's behavior. Its not like that his behavior changed only for his teacher, but had little effect on overall behavior. this doesn't happen only with students only, but with other older people also. When manager scolds his team member for not doing work in a way manager wants. Team member also starts behaving like school kid. emotional graphs takes a lot of curves. If we take this example in opposite way, means manager doesn't scold but appreciates the work. this increases the team members confidence. if this frequency of appreciation is more than normal. and after so many appreciations some days manager slops down his frequency of appreciations. team member starts thinking in way like he is getting insulted or scolded. he becomes little emotional more than normal. but after few more normals behaviors of managers, team member comes to normal emotional level. Now he doesn't feel insulted or scolded. Why does this emotional curve change it direction with situations? I think there is something that need to be changed, or you can say there is something pending to learn. I feel no one can make to learn this something.One can teach, one can tell , one can force to remember, one can make to think,but no one can make to learn. Then how will we learn this? Have we become emotional machines?